"The difference between sex and love is that sex relieves tension while love causes it." --Woody Allen
"Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to reverence life until we know how to understand sex" --Havelock Ellis
I've been in such a funk lately, mainly because I am confused by the whole sex and love issue. I've scribbled many pages in my journal about it, of course ending up at least as confused as when I started, though feeling a little better from putting the thoughts down on paper. Here's an excerpt of my journalizing:
"Why can't sex be used to express love without it complicating everything? Why can't we create unity with sex, instead of causing division? Maybe sex is merely physical, not fulfilling but instead causing unnecessary drama. Like the graffiti in the bathroom stall says: "Love Aint F*ck!" Love is something beyond the physical, its the invisible thread that binds all things as One Eternal Whole. Love can be shared in an infinite variety of ways, sex being just one of the them. Sex can be spiritual and gratifying, but only if it is done with the purest intention of showing love to a special person. Any abuse of our sexual nature is contrary to the Law of Love and will only lead to disheartenment, confusion, and misfortune. In other words, sex and love can both be satisfying, but sex is only a beautiful thing when it is shared with Love."
Too confusing. I'm going to give up even thinking about it for now. It's one of those questions that takes a lifetime to answer, or longer.
Tuesday, January 25, 2005
Sunday, January 16, 2005
Love Lessons
Ahh, Love. What a confusing thing to me. I mean, what's the point? To love and be loved is the greatest feeling in the world, but why does it seem to inevitably lead to pain and/or confusion? Why are we fed the "true love, happily ever after" myth from every different angle imaginable? It's a lie! True love is not being attached to the same person for "ever", IMO. I still haven't figured out what it actually is, how it actually works, but some quotes-of-the-day might help....
"Real love hurts, real love makes you totally open and vulnerable. Real love will take you far behind yourself,and therefore real love will devastate you. If love doesn't shatter you, you will not know love" -Anonymous
"One does not kill oneself for love of a woman, but because love - any love - reveals us in our nakedness, our misery, our vulnerability, our nothingness" -Cesare Pavese
But then again....
"If there is anything better than to be loved it is loving." -Anonymous
"When you come right down to it, the secret of having it all is loving it all." -Dr. Joyce Brothers
"Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile." --Franklin P. Jones
"The means to gain happiness is to throw out from oneself like a spider in all directions an adhesive web of love, and to catch in it all that comes" -Leo Tolstoy
"We conceal it from ourselves in vain - we must always love something. In those matters seemingly removed from love, the feeling is secretly to be found, and man cannot possibly live for a moment without it." -Blaise Pascal
Oh, I'm sure there are millions and millions more great quotes, but these few stand out to me right now. They speak to my heart and tell me that loving is ok, it is wonderful, it is necessary....my confusion will only serve to distract me from love. The issues within that I deal with daily are mental ones that need not stand in the way of my love for all. Life is for loving, that much is certain. How we choose to express that love is what life is all about.
Let no dam restrict the majestic river that flows through all of our hearts!
"Real love hurts, real love makes you totally open and vulnerable. Real love will take you far behind yourself,and therefore real love will devastate you. If love doesn't shatter you, you will not know love" -Anonymous
"One does not kill oneself for love of a woman, but because love - any love - reveals us in our nakedness, our misery, our vulnerability, our nothingness" -Cesare Pavese
But then again....
"If there is anything better than to be loved it is loving." -Anonymous
"When you come right down to it, the secret of having it all is loving it all." -Dr. Joyce Brothers
"Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile." --Franklin P. Jones
"The means to gain happiness is to throw out from oneself like a spider in all directions an adhesive web of love, and to catch in it all that comes" -Leo Tolstoy
"We conceal it from ourselves in vain - we must always love something. In those matters seemingly removed from love, the feeling is secretly to be found, and man cannot possibly live for a moment without it." -Blaise Pascal
Oh, I'm sure there are millions and millions more great quotes, but these few stand out to me right now. They speak to my heart and tell me that loving is ok, it is wonderful, it is necessary....my confusion will only serve to distract me from love. The issues within that I deal with daily are mental ones that need not stand in the way of my love for all. Life is for loving, that much is certain. How we choose to express that love is what life is all about.
Let no dam restrict the majestic river that flows through all of our hearts!
Tuesday, January 04, 2005
A New Vision with the New Year
Praise the Immortal Word, 2005 is here! I think everyone in the world was ready for 2004 to be over....now let's just hope that huge earthquake didn't set Earth's axis off by too much or it could be even crazier than it has been. At any rate there's nothing we can do about it, so we might as well enjoy the new year and move on from the past.
Personally, 2004 was a very life-changing year for me for many reasons: deaths in the family, floods in my hometown, life-partner/babys' mom splitting up with me, job changes, etc. But in no way can I compare my meager challenges to what the rest of the world has gone thru. The disasters last year, just the natural ones not the man-made ones, have been seriously affecting the entire world in their magnitude. Dec. 26th was the pinnacle of the year Mama Nature made her comeback, when all of us began to pay the price of "progress" and "modern civilization". Right now it's starting to look like our so-called progress is merely speeding up the end of our species, although the most serious disasters (supervolcanoes erupting, megatsunamis, ice ages) are not really dependent on us to completely wipe out most of life on earth. That much is fact. But it's no excuse to keep heading along the self-destructive path we have been on for the past 50-200 years (Industrial age). Maybe we here in America can start looking to a sustainable future, one that's not dependent on foreign oil or Wal-Mart cheap plastic Chinese waste products. If Bush gets his second stolen term though, all we are going to see is more destruction, i'm afraid.
So my vision for 2005 is a new outlook, a new paradigm for the world. One where we start to take our environment VERY seriously, as well as the plight of the world's poor. Because we are all interconnected, there is no one that is not affected when people are suffering somewhere. In America, there's an awful trend of growing poverty, all the while the ultra-rich keep getting richer, and until that changes there will be a tension that will one day snap and cause civil chaos here. And I'm sure it's like that most places these days.... Sadly, it's going to take a terrible defeat for America in Iraq for anyone to wake up and smell the corruption that is destroying the country. But once they do wake up from their "American Dream", people will begin to look for more fulfilling ways to live, like sharing with the poor and working for positive change. No longer will shopping bring that false happiness, because the inevitable econocataclysm here will leave the country broke and broken. I believe people will be looking for redemption in ways that will help the world to grow together, not more divided than ever. That's what I hope, anyway. Maybe there can be something positive that comes from huge natural disasters, a bond that we all share, one where we know that "what happens to the least of you, also happens to me". And then maybe we can leave the Iraqis alone, bless their hearts....
In the meantime World, forgive us for the greedy politicians that have hijacked our country for their own corporate profit agenda.....and please realize that most of us here are completely depressed about what is going on in the name of "Freedom". If we don't bring the troops home soon, I'm afraid we'll pay very dear consequences for destroying someone else's country so we could build it back up. And if we don't change our increasingly more destructive pollutive ways, global warming will speed up the process of the end of civilation, indeed maybe ALL life on Mother Earth. These are very real concerns of mine and I'm sure most people on the planet right now...
2005 will be a critical year, I can feel it. It's time to get up offa the ole comfy chair and work for global healing...
Personally, 2004 was a very life-changing year for me for many reasons: deaths in the family, floods in my hometown, life-partner/babys' mom splitting up with me, job changes, etc. But in no way can I compare my meager challenges to what the rest of the world has gone thru. The disasters last year, just the natural ones not the man-made ones, have been seriously affecting the entire world in their magnitude. Dec. 26th was the pinnacle of the year Mama Nature made her comeback, when all of us began to pay the price of "progress" and "modern civilization". Right now it's starting to look like our so-called progress is merely speeding up the end of our species, although the most serious disasters (supervolcanoes erupting, megatsunamis, ice ages) are not really dependent on us to completely wipe out most of life on earth. That much is fact. But it's no excuse to keep heading along the self-destructive path we have been on for the past 50-200 years (Industrial age). Maybe we here in America can start looking to a sustainable future, one that's not dependent on foreign oil or Wal-Mart cheap plastic Chinese waste products. If Bush gets his second stolen term though, all we are going to see is more destruction, i'm afraid.
So my vision for 2005 is a new outlook, a new paradigm for the world. One where we start to take our environment VERY seriously, as well as the plight of the world's poor. Because we are all interconnected, there is no one that is not affected when people are suffering somewhere. In America, there's an awful trend of growing poverty, all the while the ultra-rich keep getting richer, and until that changes there will be a tension that will one day snap and cause civil chaos here. And I'm sure it's like that most places these days.... Sadly, it's going to take a terrible defeat for America in Iraq for anyone to wake up and smell the corruption that is destroying the country. But once they do wake up from their "American Dream", people will begin to look for more fulfilling ways to live, like sharing with the poor and working for positive change. No longer will shopping bring that false happiness, because the inevitable econocataclysm here will leave the country broke and broken. I believe people will be looking for redemption in ways that will help the world to grow together, not more divided than ever. That's what I hope, anyway. Maybe there can be something positive that comes from huge natural disasters, a bond that we all share, one where we know that "what happens to the least of you, also happens to me". And then maybe we can leave the Iraqis alone, bless their hearts....
In the meantime World, forgive us for the greedy politicians that have hijacked our country for their own corporate profit agenda.....and please realize that most of us here are completely depressed about what is going on in the name of "Freedom". If we don't bring the troops home soon, I'm afraid we'll pay very dear consequences for destroying someone else's country so we could build it back up. And if we don't change our increasingly more destructive pollutive ways, global warming will speed up the process of the end of civilation, indeed maybe ALL life on Mother Earth. These are very real concerns of mine and I'm sure most people on the planet right now...
2005 will be a critical year, I can feel it. It's time to get up offa the ole comfy chair and work for global healing...
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